Study shows that daughters of nagging moms may be more successful
Good news, mothers of daughters! It looks like we may be able to use our daughters’ need to prove us wrong about everything to our advantage. A study from the University of Essex showed that girls who have mothers who “nag” them (a phrase we hate because a nag is a broken-down old horse and we are just trying to help, Goddammit) were more likely to go to college, get better-paying jobs, and avoid teen pregnancy than those with mothers who were more relaxed.
The study looked at the lives of over 15,000 13 and 14-year-old teenage girls for six years. Results concluded that young ladies who had a main parent (usually the mother) that stayed on top of them about chores, school, and responsibilities were more likely to go to college and have high paying jobs.
They were also less likely to become pregnant as teens. The “nagging” doesn’t necessarily come in the form that you think but has more to do with setting consistent expectations as a parent. One of the things discovered during the study that you may find surprising is that kids are listening even when you think they are not.
Cautioning them about having babies early, a poor work ethic, and low grades can inform their choices from a young age and prepare them to seize opportunities for long-term success. Being an annoying, unsolicited advice-giver has its perks.
Moms: while we may feel like we’re being tuned out, disrespected, or overbearing, know that there are benefits to our madness. You may sometimes hear your own mother’s voice (or father’s) reminding you of what to do or what not to do. It never ends, does it?
Just avoid saying things like, “I told you so” and avoid gloating over your kid’s mistakes. Encouragement and helpful “nagging” is likelier to lead your girls down a successful path.
In your own life, do you believe this study’s findings to be true? Was your mom a nag growing up? Are you a “pushy” parent that is raising daughters?
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